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I have been in my current job for almost 7 months (it's my first job out of college), the first month was awesome! I really loved my job and enjoyed every minute of it! then there were some changes in my team which I didn't like but they were not that big of a deal.

My problems started when a new employee joined my team (he has less than a year of experience but for some reason they decided to give him a senior position). I knew his name before and thought he was really great and was really exited to work with him. But day by day I started realizing he is nothing like his reputation.

I ignored all his insults (both on personal and work level) and kept doing my job, until this week when he started presenting my work which I have been working on for almost a month and had so many sleepless nights because of it to the CEO and he got a lot of praise for the work from the CEO! I only knew my work was going to be presented few minutes before the meeting which felt so wrong to me. However, I didn't speak to him about it as I was too angry and didn't want to say something I would regret later.

The next day I came to work and found someone changed my tasks for the month! Things I have been working on got removed and I was assigned new tasks that are impossible to finish before the deadline and the logs showed his name as the one who changed them! when I confronted him and told him it was so unacceptable he said that I'm overreacting and this was not his decision but the project manager's decision (which turned out to be a lie). One manager at the department noticed the tension so she called me over, I couldn't hold it anymore and told her how disrespectful he was being treating me and how my opinions are being ignored, one thing that surprised is when she asked me why didn't I present my work to the CEO earlier. So was he lying when he was bragging that he didn't want to present but she insisted he should do it!?

After that I confronted him for the second time but since then I got labelled with so many disrespectful names and he started to act as my manager in front of everyone -especially management- like asking if I knew my tasks and if I completed them and requesting me to specify when will I continue each one! Also, assigning me new tasks! I don't want to be the egoistic person but this is not acceptable he is not my manager and from what I see if I allow this I will be inviting everyone to disrespect me

Management's approach regarding his disrespect is to tell me the cliche "we respect you and you are a good valuable employee" and that I should not let anyone give me his shit or disrespect me. But whenever I do anything I get told that empowering new team members is more important than work and that I should have patience and that if I keep on getting frustrated it would mean failure.

I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm thinking of quitting as I already have 2 job offers and both of them are good but they are not as big as the company I work in now. Also, I'm thinking is waiting to complete a year is better or should I just give up on them and leave

Management's approach regarding his disrespect is to tell me the cliche "we respect you and you are a good valuable employee" and that I should not let anyone give me his shit or disrespect me. But whenever I do anything I get told that empowering new team members is more important than work and that I should have patience and that if I keep on getting frustrated it would mean failure.

Your manager is failing you big time. Your colleague presented your work as his own not because he was asked to, but because he wanted to. Your colleague stole all of glory. Your manager not only does nothing, but lectures you on empowering team members? Wow, what a load of B.S. What terrible hands off management is this? I'm sorry you experienced this.

You shouldn't stick it out in a miserable situation, because it can just get worse. I was in a similar position at a startup where someone also took my work and represented it as her own. My manager was similarly hands off and wanted me to handle it on my own. I talked to her and her manager about it and nothing happened! She went on to impress the CEO with my work (after I complained to her manager) and got a promotion for it. I ended up leaving the company completely disgusted with the situation for a new job just 1 month shy of 2 years. You know what? I love my new company. Best job I've ever had in my career.

As the saying goes, people leave managers, not companies. I would cut your losses and take one of the offers you got already. Those companies obviously didn't care that you don't have a year under your belt at your current company and still offered you a job.

You've got job offers, what's stopping you from leaving? It doesn't sound like you'll be happy in your big company. why not try a new opportunity?

From the management's perspective, you're paid exactly for your job. There is nothing they feel they have to do. Whether you're feeling positive about your job may not be their priority.

There is no much you can do, you have to go.

The size of the company is not really a status symbol, it's far more important to have a company that values you than one that's 3 or 4 times bigger.

And if you wait that year, consider the path you're on. He stole your fame, and is not positioning you to fail so you may be ejected before others discover what he did. Do you really think you'll be so agile in your ability to dodge his traps that you'll make it out at the end of your year with a good reputation?

If you have two offers, go for them. Company size doesn’t matter much, so don’t let that stop you.

A tip for salary negotiations: There was a recent study where fifty men and women were asked to negotiate a salary. Once for themselves, once for a friend. Best results in order, quite close together, were women negotiating for a friend, men negotiating for themselves, men negotiating for a friend - and far behind, women negotiating for themselves. So go into negotiations trying to get the best possible salary for a friend. Don’t take what’s offered but ask for more.